Why It’s Okay To Not Be Okay

I recently saw that sesame Street had introduced an autistic character into one of their episodes (see clip below)

People with anxiety related disorders often think there’s something wrong with us, that we’re somehow not normal. Well let me tell you that societal norms are a lie and I think the sesame Street episode in someway speaks to this though doesn’t necessarily go as far as they should into the idea. I think they get it right in saying Julia has a “Julia way” of doing things but I think they miss out on saying that when you don’t understand someone’s actions that they may not reflect on you but it’s just “their way” of doing things.

For me throughout much of my younger life I felt like an out cast because I thought I was “different”  because I made weird noise and did strange things (Tourettes) and would get anxious when my OCD acted up. I was lucky my mother reached out to the tourettes society of Canada who came in a spoke to my classmates and explained something similar to sesame Street that there was nothing wrong with me it was just “Dave’s way” of doing things.  This really helped my classmates sympathize with me and also made me feel more at home with myself. We all have “our way” of doing things the societal norm is a lie. 

As I grew up and into my teen years I learned to accept that I had my own way to do things abs the ticks grew less and when they did happen I learned how make them appear as if they were just a weird cough or stretch it was a good kind of “behavior modification”. The thing about “the way” that we handle situations  I is that it changes. The “Dave’s way” of my elementary years is far from the “Dave’s way”  of today. It really came down to patience, awareness and support (again God bless my mother for being there and helping assure me that it was in fact chemical imbalances and not a problem with myself). 

So now let’s get practical. How to get your way:

1) Realize that your condition is a part of who you are but doesn’t define you. It’s just your way of doing things.

2) Realize that you can take steps to change “your way” this is important because though maturity can help you with your issues without action your way can become even more of a problem. As I touched on before cognitive behavioral therapy is one method that has been proven effective along side medication. 

Until we speak again. Keep fighting the monster.

– The Survivor

Here’s What I Do When I Get Confused By My Depression.

“Why are you so sad? Your life is great! Just Be Happy” – Society 

Today I thought it would be a good idea to talk about how illogical depression is. No I’m not saying you are wrong for having depression, I’m saying depression doesn’t make sense and it isn’t fair. However for us with chronic depression its something we have to accept as a facet of our lives.

I’m going to use my own life as an example here. I have a day job that I can say is close to being a dream job by most people’s standards, live in a nice condo and have a loving supportive family. I should be happy however many days I just feel sad, like there is no happiness, I don’t want to smile, I don’t want to talk, I just want to be left alone to curl into a ball and not exist. 

There’s a lot of things you can do to help with this (I am definitely pro medication when needed, exercise is important and many other things) but it always feels like it takes so much to do these things. One of the most important things I’ve learned to do is to call out the depression. So often we just accept the depression like “I guess this is just who I am” but it’s not true. 

Depression is not who you are, you are a beautiful human being which was created for love. You however are currently in a depressive state, I found by separating myself from my depression and learning how depression comes and goes I can accept the fact that I may be currently in a depressive state, it’s a part of me but not who I am. 

If I continue living my life, pushing through my depressive days and seeking help I can eventually be relieved from my depression. I know seeking help can be one of the toughest things to do but it’s necessary.

Until we speak again keeping fighting the monster,

– The Survivor